LGBTQ+ Inclusive Language Recap | June 3, 2026

Today, our #StetChat topic is LGBTQ+ inclusive language.Inclusive language promotes equity and fairness in the language we use about gender, sexuality, race, disability, religion, age, class, immigration, politics, appearance, health, and much more.

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Editors, please introduce yourself. Remember to use the hashtag #StetChat for all your answers today.

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Q1: What are some words or phrases that you edit to avoid binary language and be more inclusive of all genders? Please share examples!#StetChat

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T20:06:42.871Z

A1.I edit out “manpower” fairly frequently. Labor or personnel is a good swap.#StetChat

— Rhiannon (@rhiannonroot.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:09:14.291Z

A1: his or her → theirboth genders → all gendersBrothers and sisters → siblings #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:08:58.586Z

A1: mothers and fathers / moms and dads → parents(or depending on the context, something that includes legal guardians, too, like “legal guardians” or if the audience is kids, “your trusted adult”) #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:09:09.731Z

"Caregivers" can work in this case too or, in some cases, phrasing like "your grownup." #StetChat

— meganstolzrogers.bsky.social (@meganstolzrogers.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:11:00.382Z

A1 #StetChatNieces and nephews > niblingsLadies and gentlemen > peopleDear Sir or Madam > Dear Esteemed Colleague or Hi there

— A. J. Hodges (@secondworldedits.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:14:50.758Z

"niblings" is a good one to replace "nieces and nephews" =)#StetChat

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:19:36.433Z

I avoid gendered job titles altogether because even if there might be male and female versions—like “congressman” and “congresswoman”—that still excludes nonbinary folks in that role. #StetChat

— Ashley Bischoff (@friendlyashley.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:19:08.787Z

A1: When doing in-text citation I encourage writers to reference the text or the ideas in the text when relevant and to avoid gendered pronouns for the author — and they may not even know the author's gender!#StetChat

— Joel Tillman (@jtillman.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:11:32.352Z

Yes! So many people assume gender based on names or appearance. We need to move beyond that. #StetChat

— Tanya Gold | Editor & Translator 💕📚 (they/iel) (@tanyagold.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:13:56.061Z

#StetChat Q1Using singular they rather than the general he or "he or she" that was taught in grammar class a while back.

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T20:10:35.168Z

A. Manned –> crewed comes up surprisingly often. Although I don't love "uncrewed" and would love suggests for less awkward terms. #stetchat

— meganstolzrogers.bsky.social (@meganstolzrogers.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:09:48.340Z

Most of the replacements for crewed/uncrewed that I can come up with will take up more space, but are also more accurate: computer-controlled, remote-controlled, automated. Maybe we could push "roboted"? #stetchat

— Andy Hollandbeck (@logophilius.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:12:36.779Z

A1: One example that comes to mind is querying about adjusting "mankind" to "humankind" or "humanity." (Thinking back specifically to some sci-fi works where the world has been in danger!) #StetChat

— Raquel ⟡ Fiction Editor (@raqueledits.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:12:25.965Z

A1: I work a lot in sci-fi and fantasy TTRPG and my goal is to ensure that all players feel represented in the game, which means including mentions of LGBTQ+ characters. 1/2 #StetChat

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:08:17.236Z

A1: A lot of fixes I recommend are very simple things like changing “manned spacecraft” to “crewed spacecraft” or swapping “both genders” to “all genders.” 2/2 #StetChat

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:08:17.237Z

A1: “parent” instead of “mother” or “pregnant people” instead of “women” to include people who can be pregnant and give birth who aren't women, like nonbinary people and trans men! #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:09:34.164Z

#StetChat I can't remember running into this exact problem, but I do occasionally have to say "consider 'people who can get pregnant' or 'cis women' to be more specific." Perk of working with mostly queer authors I guess 🤔

— NB Kuhn is a pen name (@nbkuhn.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:13:59.458Z

A1 For example, a common term in the field during the early 20th C in the US was “bird man” or “birdman.” It was inclusive in the sense that it included both professional and amateur bird students, but renders people of other genders in the field invisible. 4/3 #StetChat

— Jennifer W. Hanson (@jenniferwhanson.bsky.social) 2026-06-04T12:14:13.642Z

A1 #StetChatThese apply when talking about general cases, and not about a particular, gendered person:- Gendered pronouns => "they"- All the general addresses that are gendered ("men and women" => "people", "folks")- Gendered occupation titles- "Pregnant women" => "pregnant people"

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:18:37.898Z

A1: I replace "seminal" with "foundational" every chance I get.

— Sara K. Day (@sarakday.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:29:37.932Z

One of my clients is a women's college, but gender-inclusive language still is important bc 1) not every undergrad or alum is a cis female & 2) there are male grad students. We use "alumnae/i" (or "alums") when we mean everyone, but I take gendered language on a case-by-case basis. #StetChat

— meganstolzrogers.bsky.social (@meganstolzrogers.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:15:07.738Z

Q1: I see a lot of "manpower" or "manned" come up a lot in SFF. Their "men" instead of their "crew." A lot of "men and women" instead of "people" or "mothers and fathers" instead of "parents." #StetChat

— Robin LeeAnn (@dragonediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:21:19.214Z

I'm lucky in that some of my clients already require nonbinary language (e.g. using "chairperson" instead of "chairman," etc.) But lately, I just carry that rule over and apply it even in contexts where the house style doesn't explicitly call for that. I haven't gotten any pushback on it so far.

— Jill E. Mazzetta | Editor, Writer, Proofreader (@jillmazzetta.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:26:04.661Z

Q2: What are some words or phrases that you edit to be more inclusive of trans and nonbinary folks? Examples welcome! #StetChat

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T20:10:02.101Z

A2: A big one for me is getting rid of "preferred" before "pronouns" and "identifies as" in front of any identity. Just "is," please.#StetChat

— Barbie Halaby (@monocleediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:16:42.447Z

A2:pregnant women → pregnant peoplebreastfeeding mothers → breastfeeding parents or chestfeeding parentsshe identifies as a trans woman → she is trans woman (but also like…is the fact she’s trans relevant here?)sex reassignment surgery → gender-affirmation surgery#StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:14:34.444Z

#StetChat A lot of people are pointing out "identifies as" and I would also like to kill that phrasing with fire. If it was used the way I might use it, as in "my identity is complicated, and it's much easier for me to say queer than to give you the laundry list," that would be one thing. BUT NO.

— NB Kuhn is a pen name (@nbkuhn.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:20:15.358Z

#StetChat Q2I leave any use of "they" alone in a text rather than editing it to be a specific gender. Same with neopronouns like xe/xem or ze/zier for example. Also keep in mind that trans people can get pregnant, have Endometriosis, be parents etc, being inclusive there too

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T20:15:53.460Z

#StetChatA2: I guess I kind of answered that in the first Q as well 😅 To sum it up, it's all about not assuming that "men and women" are the only two ways of being human, and that experiences seen as the experience of one gender are only typically so. And this includes both trans and cis people.

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:34:46.403Z

#StetChatA2 part 2Not every woman, cis or trans, will experience periods. Not only women experience periods. So things like "women's hygiene products" => "period/menstruation products"."She used to be a man" => "She's a trans woman"

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:34:46.404Z

#StetChatA2 part 3Also, not really a matter of language, but since I work in fiction, I'm careful around harmful tropes. The trans woman vilain, for example. And even beyond tropes, it's important to be respectful rather than trying to appeal to the curiosity of cis people.

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:34:46.405Z

#StetChatA2 part 4Is deadnaming the character relevant? Does the audience really need to know the nonbinary character's assigned gender at birth? Those elements can be integrated well with purpose, but they don't have to be there by default.

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:34:46.406Z

A2: People use multiple pronouns and should be allowed to see that aspect of themselves in stories too.As editors, it's not our job to make this simpler or more mainstream by erasing this, but to ensure the usage is consistent to that character (and that character at that point in time). #StetChat

— Tanya Gold | Editor & Translator 💕📚 (they/iel) (@tanyagold.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:25:55.594Z

A2: a. I like to recommend that creators have NPCs (nonplayer characters) who use pronouns aside from just him/he or she/her like they, them, zee, zir, or other. On my style sheets, I include a character’s pronouns. 1/2 #StetChat

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:19:09.027Z

A2: b. For one sci-fi game, I suggested the term “intersex” instead of “hermaphrodite” for a nonhuman sentient species. 2/2 #StetChat

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:19:09.028Z

Q2: From some past projects with nonbinary authors (and their NB characters), I thought of a bit of the editing I've done on my letters/queries to ensure characters' pronouns are being used correctly! A quick and simple way to help authors feel seen during the editing process! #StetChat

— Raquel ⟡ Fiction Editor (@raqueledits.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:22:43.667Z

Q2: I try to be as neutral with they/them when possible, especially when gender isn't specified. And to say that people are—not that they identify as. There are no preferred pronouns; those *are* their pronouns.

— Robin LeeAnn (@dragonediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:26:37.095Z

Q3: What are some words or phrases that you edit to be more inclusive of people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, queer, asexual, and other marginalized sexualities? Any examples?#StetChat

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T20:15:05.151Z

#StetChat Editing out phrases like "my other/better half," "the one," or anything that assumes everyone wants a romo/sexual relationship. Specifying romo relationship when just "relationship" is used, and being inclusive of QPRs. Editing out assumptions that all romo relationships are straight.

— Jenna Miller–"Jay" (she/they) (@the-other-jenna.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:32:20.666Z

#StetChat A3: Another thing–changing "LGBT" to "LGBTQ+" when it's supposed to mean the community at large. I cringe a little every time I see it, especially from queer spaces.

— Jenna Miller–"Jay" (she/they) (@the-other-jenna.bsky.social) 2026-06-04T14:08:31.921Z

Tangential, but I also still spell out "LGBT+" (like most acronyms). Don't assume everyone knows what all the letters mean. Spelling it out also helps define all the identities that fall under that + sign to show how broad the community it. #StetChat

— meganstolzrogers.bsky.social (@meganstolzrogers.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:43:00.397Z

#StetChat Q3Use the specific language. If a character is asexual or pansexual, say that (or leave that alone if it's there). Be respectful and don't try to erase the identities. Also I will always delete things like "pick a side" for bi characters or "you'll find the right person" for aro/ace.

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T20:22:56.268Z

A3: I still see quite a bit of heteronormativity when I work with consumer health content. It's gotten more subtle over the years, but it's still there. I'm a huge advocate for #LGBTQ+ inclusivity in health spaces, so I have a laser focus for finding and fixing this kind of language.

— Jill E. Mazzetta | Editor, Writer, Proofreader (@jillmazzetta.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:04:30.056Z

For example, I often edit out "starting a family" as a euphemism for trying to conceive. It's got some really baked-in comphet implications that have always irked me, and I don't find this term to be inclusive of found families or queer families in general.

— Jill E. Mazzetta | Editor, Writer, Proofreader (@jillmazzetta.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:04:30.057Z

#StetChat "Just friends" is one of my bugbears because it frames romantic relationships as more important than friendships, which is obvs not true for aromantic people (some of whom do read romance novels, y'know)

— NB Kuhn is a pen name (@nbkuhn.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:35:43.105Z

this is one I will always highlight, particularly for cishet writers. In the queer community, there's been a bit more discussion over whether or not it matters if sexual orientation is a choice (as in, even if we did choose this, you should still respect it!) #stetchat

— Elliott Silverstein (@archivefeverdream.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:28:15.105Z

A3: “Jane knew early on she could feel sensual w/ either gender. She didn’t define herself as polyamorous, but she delighted in her ability to be excited both ways.”I suggested changing polyamorous to bisexual because what the author is describing is closer to bisexuality than polyamory. #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:26:03.555Z

#StetChatA3 part 1: slurs come to mind, unless they're being reclaimed and handled with purpose.

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:44:03.811Z

#StetChatA3 part 2If talking in general, umbrella terms are useful to include everyone. Talking only about bisexuals when discussing people who experience attraction to more than one gender => "people under the bi umbrella" (including pansexuals, biromantics etc.)

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:44:03.812Z

Q3: For aro/ace in particular, I change phrases that suggest everyone feels sexual attraction or wants sex or that "well, everyone wants to be in a relationship." That you need romance to be happy.There are a lot of allo concepts that are normalized but are not true for everyone.#StetChat

— Robin LeeAnn (@dragonediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:32:01.848Z

Q4: Why is it important to suggest edits to make language more LGBTQ+ inclusive?How do you frame those benefits to your clients and authors?Share examples or anecdotes!#StetChat

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T20:20:02.077Z

#stetChat Q4Right now, LGBTQ+ books and stories are being banned. It's more important than ever to include them and be respectful, rather than censor it. When talking to authors, explain the importance of that, as well as being respectful to all readers/audiences.

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T20:27:24.867Z

Because it's never just about language. Queer and trans people deserve to see ourselves represented, yes, but language is also being used at the legislative level to villainize and erase us (speaking from a U.S. perspective here, though this is true in many places across the world as well) #StetChat

— Elliott Silverstein (@archivefeverdream.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:43:05.173Z

A4. I work with a lot of SMEs across different fields, so my answer can vary. For my medical and science clients, for example, it's pretty straightforward: inclusivity is (fortunately) the expected standard in the community. My NGO/IGO clients also usually have a policy I can point to.

— Jill E. Mazzetta | Editor, Writer, Proofreader (@jillmazzetta.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:34:04.846Z

But in general, I always tell clients that it's shockingly easy to make people in your audience feel *excluded,* and once you've done that, you've lost them forever. It costs them nothing to be inclusive, but it could cost them very dearly (reputationally, morally, even monetarily) to be careless.

— Jill E. Mazzetta | Editor, Writer, Proofreader (@jillmazzetta.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:34:04.847Z

Q4: I frame it as keeping their readers in mind. Anyone in the world can pick up your book, and when you're writing for the world, it’s important to not harm or exclude anyone. To not let a stereotype or a stigma live but rather to challenge it.#StetChat

— Robin LeeAnn (@dragonediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:38:40.328Z

A4: In my fiction work, these suggestion resonate most once an author understands HOW the non-inclusive language often completely & unnecessarily distracts from the story or AU’s main intention. Taking the effort to be thoughtful & open-minded can help readers stay centered in your story! #StetChat

— Raquel ⟡ Fiction Editor (@raqueledits.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:34:49.769Z

A4: This is such a good question. I think sometimes in our earnest desire as editors to promote gender affirming language, we forget that language isn't the end game. What's most important is to promote well-being and belonging for the LGBTQ+ community, and we do that through language.#StetChat

— Joel Tillman (@jtillman.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:24:54.467Z

Honestly, one of the most successful ways I've been able to frame it is accuracy (e.g., "It's not 'manned' when the crew includes women, after all"). And inclusive language *is* more accurate! #StetChat

— Shecky (@shecky.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:29:43.898Z

A4: I propose it as a nonstarter: Use x instead of y to be inclusive for all readers. I point out that although some people will not notice or care if language is exclusive, more and more readers want inclusivity, accuracy, and just plain CARE for language. #StetChat

— Barbie Halaby (@monocleediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:24:41.793Z

A4: I’m not LGBTQ+ myself, but my best friend and other folks close to me are LGBTQ. When I see language that’s not inclusive, I think of how they’re are affected by biased language that ignores or erases their experiences. #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:26:48.620Z

Yes! I have family members and colleagues who are LGBTQ+, and that makes using #inclusive #language highly important to me in every situation. #StetChat

— Katharine O'Moore-Klopf, ELS (@kokedit.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:31:05.448Z

A4: As to how I frame the benefits to authors:Here’s an example of my editorial letter section on LGBTQ+ inclusive language to an author of a book about pregnancy and postpartum experiences. #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:28:17.585Z

Did I miss Q3??Q4. If you do it right, usually the inclusive term is shorter and more succinct. Copy being more inclusive also can mean *gasp* more readers and building your audience.#StetChat

— Rhiannon (@rhiannonroot.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:26:00.088Z

Honestly, one of the most successful ways I've been able to frame it is accuracy (e.g., "It's not 'manned' when the crew includes women, after all"). And inclusive language *is* more accurate! #StetChat

— Shecky (@shecky.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:29:43.898Z

A4: In my day job as a technical editor for the skilled trades, we change "tradesman" to "tradesperson" and other technical terminology, to reflect learners preferences. As the trades start attracting a diverse population, its language must change too!

— Aalap Trivedi — Editor (@aalaptrivedi.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:27:48.926Z

Q5: Do you have any tools or resources that you use to write author queries about LGBTQ+ inclusive language?#StetChat

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T20:30:13.107Z

A5: Here are a few resources we hope are helpful:🔗 Inclusive Language Guide (2nd ed.; ILG): www.apa.org/about/apa/eq…🔗 bias-free language guidelines: apastyle.apa.org/style-gramma…🔗 Brief Guide to Bias-Free and Inclusive Language (handout): apastyle.apa.org/instructiona…#StetChat

— APA Style (@apastyle.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:49:43.945Z

One more from our blog:🔗 apastyle.apa.org/blog/importa… "Reducing bias in language makes your writing more credible, precise, and respectful."#StetChat

— APA Style (@apastyle.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:09:00.691Z

APA has been a leading voice in inclusive language for a long, long time, and that has really endeared them to me! #StetChat

— Kara Babcock (@tachyondecay.net) 2026-06-03T21:21:14.878Z

#StetChat Q51) Conscious Language Style Guide (website, mostly the resources for writers)2)GLADDMy personal experience as an LGBTQ+ person & in the community also informs a lot of the queries I might make.

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T20:35:37.664Z

A5: I love @redpenrabbit.bsky.social’s Conscious Language Toolkit, which has prewritten author queries that explains why the word or phrase isn’t inclusive and often includes a link.www.rabbitwitharedpen.com/conscious-la… #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:31:45.603Z

A5: I’d also say: Don’t let that fear of “I don’t know the perfect way to suggest inclusive language” be a barrier to you suggesting inclusive edits.Often, a shortcut is to find a good online resource that outlines why the language is problematic and what a more inclusive option is. #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:33:22.921Z

#StetChatQ5 The most important thing is to assume good intention on the writer's part, so I phrase the query in a way that shouldn't get the writer on the defensive. Like anything else in editing, it's not "boo! Look how badly you're written this!" but "This could work better as x, y, z because…"

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:13:28.229Z

I’ve found the Media Reference Guide from @glaad.bsky.social to be a handy go-to reference on inclusive language relating to LGBTQ+ folks:glaad.org/reference/#StetChat

— Ashley Bischoff (@friendlyashley.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:37:19.071Z

Absolutely. I generally will directly quote (using quotation marks) from online resources to my clients instead of trying to elegantly restate things. I will explain why the current language could be improved and give them the links to the full article/blog post/etc. #StetChat

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:37:01.859Z

A5: Dozens of tabs in my browser under "Insensitive Language." Everything from the NAHJ Cultural Competence Handbook to the Inclusivity Style Guide by the American Chemical Society. I also have a conscious language style sheet loaded in my PerfectIt. #StetChat

— Barbie Halaby (@monocleediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:33:54.167Z

A5: Alex Kapitan, the radical copyeditor, has a wealth of blog posts and guides, and I find that they are great for queries but you can also even link to them in editing letters if you think your client will want more info! #StetChatradicalcopyeditor.com

— Kara Babcock (@tachyondecay.net) 2026-06-03T21:20:09.812Z

A5: The NLGJA's Stylebook on LGBTQ+ Terminology and the Trans Journalists Association Stylebook, in combination with Jennifer Lawler's ClubEd course about queries and the Rabbit With A Red Pen Conscious Language Toolkit. (For great info + Building a solid querying foundation) #StetChat

— Raquel ⟡ Fiction Editor (@raqueledits.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:39:24.373Z

A5: a. The Chicago Manual of Style for sexual orientation terms and to point out that singular “they” is perfectly fine. Crystal Yang’s (@redpenrabbit.bsky.social) Conscious Language Toolkits for Editors and for Writers. Karen Yin’s (@karenyin.bsky.social) The Conscious Style Guide. 1/2

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:33:22.781Z

A5: b. BuzzFeed’s Style Guide (www.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeednews…) #StetChat2/2

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:33:22.782Z

Q6: If you’ve suggested edits to make language inclusive of LGBTQ+ identities, how have authors responded?What do you do if an author pushes back?#StetChat

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T20:35:01.236Z

A6 – When I get client pushback, I remind them: Your purpose isn't to alienate or turn readers away. Refusing to make inclusive adjustments is going to do exactly that. (Appeal to their desire for success when all else fails.)#StetChat

— Teshia Harding (@tedits134.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:41:17.718Z

#StetChat Q6Most of my clients/authors I work with are in the LGBTQ+ community writing about queer characters so I usually don't have any issues. Edits or comments go very well!But if it were to ever happen, I would explain as someone in the community, or stop working with the author depending.

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T20:42:33.170Z

A6: The vast majority of my authors have been very pleased to accept my recommendations. Many of them were completely unaware that their wording was potentially exclusionary. #StetChat

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:39:30.365Z

A6: This has been my experience too. I've had a much harder time pushing for other types of inclusive language (around citizenship status, for instance) than for LGBTQIA+ or gender-inclusive stuff. #StetChat

— Barbie Halaby (@monocleediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:40:53.959Z

#StetChat A6: I typically don't get to see author responses except for what I can infer when the book comes out.I win some, I lose some. In the latter case, if given the opportunity, I try again in the next edition.I repeat the Copyeditor's Mantra a lot. "It's not my book. It's not my book…"

— Stevonnie (שולמית) (@mxs510.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:44:16.404Z

I just got questioned on why I wanted to switch “manhole” to “maintenance hole.” So that’s my life. Got it done, though.#StetChat

— Rhiannon (@rhiannonroot.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:39:39.877Z

#StetChatQ6I've had good responses so far. If I had an author push back, I would add more info / explanation / sources, and if they push back again, I'd let it go since I work directly with authors, so I don't have any authority on their work (while you could rely on the publisher otherwise).

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:32:36.855Z

A6: One time, I was editing a thriller novel and a character made a transphobic joke.This is the comment I left for him, and he responded really well and changed it! This is why I flag stuff instead of just assume that the author won’t change it. It can make a difference! #StetChat #amediting

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:41:03.061Z

A6: I've been very fortunate to work with authors who’ve been curious & open-minded! I try to frame all communication in that vein, without assuming AU has any particular negative intention. So it feels like more of a check-in about XYZ Item & less of an overt "fix this" correction. #StetChat

— Raquel ⟡ Fiction Editor (@raqueledits.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:44:00.162Z

Q7: If the copy needs special attention to LGBTQ+ inclusive language/representation outside your edit's scope, what do you recommend to the author?If you’re LGBTQ+, do you offer sensitivity readings?If you’re not LGBTQ+, do you refer the author to an LGBTQ+ editor/sensitivity reader?#StetChat

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T20:40:01.840Z

A7. This issue is why it’s important to have diversity in the newsroom. #StetChat

— Rhiannon (@rhiannonroot.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:50:57.998Z

If it's outside of my own queer/intersectional experience, I recommend that they do more research / work with an authenticity/sensitivity reader. I've got a list of where people can find them at the bottom of this page of inclusive storytelling resources:tanyagold.com/resources/in… #StetChat

— Tanya Gold | Editor & Translator 💕📚 (they/iel) (@tanyagold.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:53:18.751Z

A7: If it’s obvious that the issues go beyond the language and get into representation territory, I recommended that people hire an LGBTQ+ sensitivity reader.ACES and EFA directories both let you search for sensitivity readers, or I send the person to an LGBTQ+ editor who might be a fit. #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:43:03.824Z

A7: But also, don’t let the fear of not knowing exactly what to say or how to explain it keep you from suggesting inclusive edits that are within the scope of your edit! #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:43:26.526Z

A7 This is generally my approach. I might point something out to an author ("This wording is a little hard to follow.") That's obviously not in response to the specific type of situation we're talking about in today's #StetChat. 1/?

— Jennifer W. Hanson (@jenniferwhanson.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:50:43.406Z

A7 Then I'll rework the sentence and ask the author if they think it works or if they want to go more in the direction of the offered alternative. This all happens in notes on the ms. 2/fin #StetChat

— Jennifer W. Hanson (@jenniferwhanson.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:53:11.675Z

#StetChatA7: I would definitely recommend a sensitivity reader or an editor specialised in what the issue is (or offer to do it myself if it's in my wheelhouse of queer experiences).

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:36:08.462Z

#StetChat Q7I offer sensitivity readings! My specialties are nonbinary/trans characters, asexual characters, and biromantic characters. And I'm a part of the LGBTQ+ Editors Association if I need to refer out to people with different lived experiences.

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T20:47:00.665Z

A7: I'm a big fan of recommending sensitivity reads—of course for elements I can't evaluate myself, but even if it’s something I can read for. It's still just one person's opinion, and not a whole group/identity, so I love multiple readers, wherever possible! #StetChat

— Raquel ⟡ Fiction Editor (@raqueledits.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:58:41.663Z

A7: #StetChat I always recommend a sensitivity reader if needed. I consider feedback on damaging tropes part of developmental editing, and strive to constantly improve my knowledge of them, but lived experience is another level of detail.

— A. J. Hodges (@secondworldedits.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:56:07.521Z

#StetChat A7: (Catching up on the chat lol). I do sensitivity reads for aro/ace topics. If it's a different LGBTQ+ identity, then I'd recommend a reader of that identity. The group Binders Full of Sensitivity Readers on FB can be another easy way to find someone!

— Jenna Miller–"Jay" (she/they) (@the-other-jenna.bsky.social) 2026-06-04T13:54:29.858Z

Q8: What are some areas of LGBTQ+ inclusive language that you aren’t as well-versed in and want to learn more about so you can be a more conscious, inclusive #editor?#StetChat

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T20:50:02.070Z

#StetChat Q8Even though I'm in the community, I'm always trying to learn more from people with different lived experiencesOr from communities that intersect, such as from POC or Black LGBTQ+ people on how we can be more inclusive and consider the intersectionality of colonialism and racism.

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T20:57:32.263Z

#StetChat A8: Neopronouns. Also the common experiences, stereotypes, and cultural markers/symbols of other identities so I can better flag problems that might not be obvious. Really don't even feel comfortable adverting as a queer fiction editor until I do that.

— Jenna Miller–"Jay" (she/they) (@the-other-jenna.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:04:56.036Z

#StetChatQ8:Aro & Ace experiences. I feel like I don't know enough and might have some unconscious misconceptions. Reading Ace by Angela Chen at the moment =) (and lowkey having an identity crisis over it 🤣)

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:45:18.255Z

A8: Because I work more in games, where the main focus is on combat, problem solving, or negotiation, I haven’t had a lot of opportunity to work on projects where the focus is on LGBTQ+ romantic relationships or friendships. #StetChat

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:51:50.932Z

A8: I'm definitely up for learning more about language and concepts around sexuality beyond the LGBT: poly-/a-/pan- varieties particularly. Most of my conversations there are off the page, but surely there will come a time when the edits lead in that direction. #StetChat

— Barbie Halaby (@monocleediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:56:59.928Z

A8- As part of the queer community in NYC, I feel pretty comfortable with LGBTQ+ inclusive language in general. I would love to learn more about inclusive language in other languages, and how that moves over into English as a second/third language and linguistic combinations like Hinglish!#stetchat

— Teshia Harding (@tedits134.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:55:34.344Z

A8: I think I’m the least familiar with nonbinary experiences and inclusive language, probably because I have very close friends who are bi, lesbian, ace, and trans, but not NB! #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:54:38.063Z

A8: I didn’t know a ton about intersex folks until last year when I got the opportunity to get to know an intersex person and hear about their experiences.I def need to learn more about it though! I've bookmarked a few documentaries about intersex folks to watch on YouTube. #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T20:55:13.995Z

Q9: What #editing resources do you recommend for #editors who want to brush up on LGBTQ+ inclusive language?Think: newsletters, blogs, books, webinars, classes, social media accounts, etc.#StetChat

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T20:55:01.389Z

A9: So many awesome resources in the chat here! Writing the Other has a bunch of on-demand & live classes for authors (& editors) that I've enjoyed! And Salt and Sage Books authored one of the first books I came across that focuses specifically on writing asexual characters! #StetChat

— Raquel ⟡ Fiction Editor (@raqueledits.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:08:05.183Z

A9: I LOVE @radicalcopyeditor.bsky.social's Radical Copyeditor blog & webinar content. Treasure trove of both practical advice & high-level ideas about editingFor example:“The Radical Copyeditor’s Style Guide for Writing About Transgender People”: radicalcopyeditor.com/2017/08/31/t…#StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T21:00:00.222Z

#StetChatQ9: Listening to people with lived experiences (and learning about intersectionality!).The EFA has good webinars on inclusive language, both LGBTQIA+ and in general, and of course there's The Conscious Style Guide by Karen Yin.

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:49:08.248Z

#StetChat A9: I'm actually looking to put together a database of aro and/or ace editors, readers, and resources that can help both writers and editors learn about and better represent these orientations. If anyone's interested in being included/offering info please reach out! jennam@briaredits.com

— Jenna Miller–"Jay" (she/they) (@the-other-jenna.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:16:17.627Z

I sure do! Here's the Queer Editors starter pack.bsky.app/starter-pack…And there's also @lgbtqeditors.bsky.social. (The org doesn't have a directory yet, but hopefully it will soon.) #StetChat

— Tanya Gold | Editor & Translator 💕📚 (they/iel) (@tanyagold.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:27:59.528Z

A9: a. LGBTQIA Resource Center (lgbtqia.ucdavis.edu), LGBTQ Center at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill (lgbtq.unc.edu), Madeleine Vasaly’s (@madeleinevasaly.com) Free Sources for Inclusive and Stereotype-Busting Stock Images (www.madeleinevasaly.com/blog/2022/3/…), 1/2 #StetChat

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:57:05.965Z

A9: b. and Tanya Gold’s (@tanyagold.bsky.social) Inclusive Storytelling Resource List (tanyagold.com/resources/in…) 2/2 #StetChat

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T20:57:05.966Z

#StetChat Q9This is more general but if you know/see and LGBTQ+ editor hosting a webinar on similar topics or posting blogs, follow them and read up! I find learning from others in the community and talking to them can be a good way to learn, on top of any nonfiction texts.

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T21:00:48.162Z

◽The Importance of Writing Casually Queer Characters — www.writersdigest.com/write-better…

— Robin LeeAnn (@dragonediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:03:21.692Z

◽Transgender Style Guide — radicalcopyeditor.com/2017/08/31/t…

— Robin LeeAnn (@dragonediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:03:21.693Z

◽Writing Well-Rounded Nonbinary Characters — www.writingdiversely.com/post/writing…

— Robin LeeAnn (@dragonediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:03:21.694Z

A9: @transjournalists.org Trans Journalist Association style guide! styleguide.transjournalists.org And @glaad.bsky.social media guide: glaad.org/reference/#StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T21:01:17.286Z

Q10: What books, TV shows, movies, music, content creators, and other media have expanded your understanding of inclusive language for #LGBTQ+ communities?#StetChat

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T21:02:36.584Z

#StetChatQ10: so many! There are tons of great nonfiction books talking about LGBTQIA+ experiences. To name a few:Gender Euphoria, Edited by Laura Kate DaleNon-Binary Lives: an anthology of intersecting identitiesThe T in LGBT+ by Jamie RainesTrans Love Edited by Freiya Benson

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T22:06:26.449Z

#StetChatQ10 part 2 Ace by Angela ChenI'm so bad at keeping lists 🥲About including trans characters in speculative fiction:Transcending Flesh by Ana Mardoll

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T22:06:26.450Z

#StetChatQ10 part 3: fiction (this is the very few of a very long list that come to mind)The Stars and the Blackness Between Them, Junauda PetrusCemetery Boys, Aiden ThomasDon't Let the Forest In, CG DrewsTriple Sec, TJ AlexanderBirthday, Meredith RussoWicked Little Things, Justin Arnold

— Jesse – Rainbow Pen Editing (@rainbowpenediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T22:06:26.451Z

Q10: @rainbowcrate.bsky.social does a great job at getting books from a variety of LGBTQIA+ people. I love reading queer books from queer authors.My favorites so far are:◽The Baker's Thief◽The Sunbearer TrialsAnd I have so many more in my to-read mountain!#StetChat

— Robin LeeAnn (@dragonediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:16:16.464Z

A10: the CW Supergirl series made a very concerted effort to be diverse and inclusive, with gay and trans main characters. I named myself Kara after Kara Danvers from this show.From music: Janelle Monáe is a queer icon!! Their music pushes boundaries in so many ways #StetChat

— Kara Babcock (@tachyondecay.net) 2026-06-03T21:51:26.092Z

A10: RuPaul’s Drag Race, Pose, Legends and Lattes by Travis Baldree, Murderbot series by Martha Wells, Orange is the New Black, and Alison Bechdel’s work, Check, Please! by Ngozi Ukazu. #StetChat

— Rachel Lapidow (@editrix-rachel.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:06:39.520Z

A10: I love Jamie Raines (aka Jammidodger on YouTube)’s YouTube content and his book, The T in LGBT: Everything You Need to Know About Being Trans. bookshop.org/a/6998/97814… #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T21:03:23.173Z

A10: I loved Shame-Sex Attraction: Survivors' Stories of Conversion Therapy, ed by Lucas Wilson, which is a collection of #essays by survivors of #conversiontherapy. Really eye-opening into what folks go through, often at the hands of religious institutions. bookshop.org/a/6998/97818… #StetChat

— Carolina VonKampen 📚 Freelance Editor (@carolinavonkampen.com) 2026-06-03T21:03:47.321Z

I learned a lot about LGTBQ+ inclusive language from podcasts!#StetChatopen.spotify.com/episode/74i3…

— Joel Tillman (@jtillman.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:06:13.667Z

A10: The Vocal Fries is one of my favorite podcasts. I also like "Sounds Fake but Okay." #StetChat

— Barbie Halaby (@monocleediting.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:07:34.826Z

A10. I’m making an effort to read more LGBTQ 🏳️‍🌈 romance novels. #StetChat

— Rhiannon (@rhiannonroot.bsky.social) 2026-06-03T21:04:12.633Z

Yes! (Indie authors are first on this list)Tempest Take Me Home by @cknightwrites.bsky.social Sweet & Wild by @applesncinnamon.bsky.social Kiss Me Maybe by Gabriella GamezOutdrawn by Deanna Grey

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T21:21:58.062Z

#StetChat Q10Black Sun by Rebecca Roanhorse has LGBTQ+ characters and inclusive language (neopronouns)Any book by Aiden Thomas (Sunbearer Trials, Cemetery Boys)TV shows:The Owl House (Disney)Dead End Paranormal Park (Netflix)

— Steph 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️ | Editor 🦦✍️ (@ottersediting.com) 2026-06-03T21:08:31.966Z

Our next #StetChat is scheduled for Wednesday, June 17 at 4 p.m. ET / 1 p.m. PT when we’ll play Red Flag Roulette. 🚩 Put it on your calendars so you don’t forget!

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-03T21:11:01.789Z

Thank you to @kyrafreestar.bsky.social for capturing a screenshot of #StetChat trending on Bluesky during our chat yesterday! Wow!!! #amediting #edibuddies

— #StetChat (@stetchat.com) 2026-06-04T19:44:38.825Z